We look for safety in two ways—intellectually and in the material world. Intellectually, we aim to minimise the uncertainty in our life, to build security, to feel confident and competent, to plan the future, to strategise about our options, find answers to the questions that intrigue and bother us, minimise emotional and psychological frictions.
There are two types of safety and only one is real Read More »
When we are not seen, heard, and held as children, we learn to not see, hear and hold ourselves. We learn to ignore ourselves. We get the message that there’s something undeserving about us.
The answers we look for are usually within us already. It’s the noise—both external and internal—that prevents us from receiving them. Busyness of mind and body, distractions, restlessness, incessant motion – our innate inability to stand still.
Our worth is not in our actions, it’s in our being. And it’s not in us being a certain way—in a certain form, shape, sound, embodiment—but just in our very being itself.
Worth is in being, not doing Read More »
Most of the time we’re trying to avoid the life we don’t want to live rather than create the life we don’t want to avoid. This, by default, puts us in a reactive mode. The choices we make are in response to what we don’t want.
Avoiding the life we don’t want Read More »
When we’re worried about what other people think of us, what we’re really worried about is the fact that we think there’s something worrisome about us. It is not other people’s opinion that we’re concerned about, but our own concern that there’s something concerning about us.
You’re not worried what other people think of you Read More »
The access to who we really are is on the other side of our limited idea of ourselves. The stories and narratives we have about ourselves are invariably based in limitation. They are coping mechanisms we, or more precisely the ego-based part of us, adopted when we were children in response to the events of our life.
The absence of the idea of you Read More »
ways we aren’t fully conscious of, we attract in life the tailor-made circumstances for our evolution. We attract what we judge until we no longer judge what we attract. We attract what we resist, until we no longer resist what we attract.
We attract what we judge Read More »
Making a mistake is normal, human and even desirable because we learn from the experience. Yet, we often feel uncomfortable or even embarrassed if we haven’t handled something as well as we could have.
Mistakes are not the problem Read More »
There is a lot of stigma around asking for what we need. You may think that if you deserved it, you wouldn’t have to ask for it. You may believe that you’re being entitled, arrogant, or too demanding. You may tell yourself that whatever the situation you’re not satisfied with is, it could have been worse.
The confidence of asking for what you need Read More »