Feelings of shame, guilt, fear, apathy, anxiety, hopelessness are signs that you’re listening to and buying into your Inner Critic / Fearful Ego. When you experience these feelings, ask yourself — what thoughts are creating these? What have I been telling myself? Attune to your Inner Critic, hear it out, with curiosity and compassion, and […]
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What we dislike and resist in others is what we judge in ourselves. These parts we’re trying to annex are our shadow qualities, and they are our greatest teacher to self-love. It’s not disowning them that makes us complete, it’s embracing them. Self-love is loving both the lovable and the seemingly unlovable in us.
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Acceptance is not about making something acceptable to accept. Acceptance is accepting what is, as it is, now. This takes great courage. Stepping out of self/life-censorship and resistance and allowing yourself and life, non-judgementally, requires a lot of vulnerability.
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Ironically, we escape anxiety when we stop trying to escape it and allow ourselves to feel it instead. We are conditioned to resist our feelings in order to cope with them, but ironically it’s when we feel them that they pass through us.
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The qualities of leadership are already within you, beneath the conditioned thinking patterns.
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Toward the end of last summer, I took cold showers for a couple of weeks. One morning, in the midst of a shower, I thought—it’s not getting any easier. And then I remembered—it’s not about avoiding difficulties, it’s about being with them without letting them affect us.
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Life is more draining than energising. Your mood is low.
You’re engaging in some form of emotional numbing: avoidance and/or distraction activities.
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Busyness is often the result of panic, complacency or lack of clarity. If you’ve been guilty of it, slow down and feel into the discomfort this will create within you. Stay with it and ask the difficult questions: What am I avoiding? What am I not admitting to myself? What really matters? What is my
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True self-awareness is deep appreciation of our own worth. To truly know our value is to be truly free. We tend to look for validation, recognition and appreciation externally—from other people, from titles, statuses, achievements. But the real validation we’re seeking, often unbeknownst to us, is our own. When we recognise and appreciate our worth,
Shortcuts and hacks promote two major misconceptions—that faster gets us there faster, and that the goal is to get there. I believe the opposite is true on both accounts: the more we slow down, the faster we go; and the point is to be here, not there. The main factor that shapes both the depth
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