Avoiding, ignoring or numbing our emotional or physical pain.
Looking for approval and acceptance from others. People-pleasing. Shape-shifting to be liked.
Taking action against our intuition.
Depending on others for love.
Prioritising outcome over process.
Taking the action that logic or society dictates when it doesn’t feel right.
Not making time for self-care and small gestures of self-love.
Distracting from loneliness, sadness or grief.
Not being 100% responsible for our experience of life.
Judging ourselves.
Not eating natural and nutritious foods.
Substance abuse.
Not understanding that at any given point, we are doing the best we could do to take care of ourselves. And, so even if that includes some of these self-abandoning behaviours, that’s fine.
All of our actions are an expression of self-love and self-care, even the not particularly loving ones. Eventually, the pain that self-abandonment creates begins to outweigh our fear of uncertainty, and becomes a tipping point.