Most of us feel the need to connect with others deeply and be seen and appreciated for who we are.
You reach out to friends, attend social events, talk and share. But often, on the most fundamental level, the need to connect is the result of your feeling undeserving of that connection in some way. In other words, there’s a deep-seated belief that you’re unworthy, which gives rise to the desire to be appreciate, so that you prove that belief wrong.
There are two problems with that. First, these type of limiting believes are insatiable–no amount of proof would ever satisfy them. Why? Because they’re lies on the first place. And you don’t overcome lies by engaging with them, you overcome lies by seeing them for what they are. By bringing truth to them.
And the other issue is that if you believe you’re unworthy of appreciation, success, more money, or whatever–whether that’s a conscious or subconscious belief–you’d try to hide what you think are the unworthy aspects of yourself. And when you do, it’s not you that’s connecting with people, it’s your idea of who you should be.
This is the real reason you are not seen, heard, appreciated—because you are not there, your idea of who you should be is.
When the real you shows up, you are and you express from your authentic self, and you connect with presence and depth you’ve never had before.