The decisions we make and the decisions that make us

We make about 33,000 decisions per day. Over 2,000 in every hour of sixteen waking hours. We choose what to do, how to do it, what we say, if we say it, when we exercise, what we drink, eat, leave, take.

But the vast majority of our actions result from the decisions we don’t make. 95% of cognition happens “in the dark”—in our subconscious not our conscious mind.

And it is these subconscious autopilot decisions that have the most profound impact on us. The decisions we don’t make are the decisions that make us. In other words, it’s not what we choose consciously, but what we choose subconsciously that really shapes our reality.

We choose the subconscious autopilot decisions without awareness, meaning we’re not choosing them, they are choosing us. And ironically, they affect some of the most fundamental aspects of our lives:

How often do we really think about who we are?

How often do we consider who we want to be, how we want to act, regardless of what happens?

How often do we think about our values and principles?

How often do we think about how we choose to see the person in front of us? About the impact that choice has on who they are, how they act, and who we are?

How often do we think about whether we create or participate in life?

How often do we think about how we can serve more powerfully?

These are the decisions that create our life. And in most cases, they are not decisions we make consciously.

We choose all the time, including when we’re not choosing.

We choose the life we love to live, not the life that happens to us, when we consciously choose who we are, how we relate and talk to ourselves, how we think of others and life.