To experience our true selves, we need to unlearn our conditioned thinking. And to unlearn it, we need to see it first. We have resistance to both because both seeing the truth and unlearning require an openness to the possibility that we might be wrong. And that’s something we are really scared of.
The fear of being wrong is so strong in us that subconsciously we prefer to believe in our self-defeating and limiting stories. We choose living with the pain they create over investigating their validity — because we’re scared of being wrong.
I know how disorienting and frightening the possibility of being wrong is. I’ve experienced it multiple times. Lurking in that assumption are three of our biggest fears: the fear of the wrongness of self (something’s wrong me with), the fear of not being able to trust myself and the fear of not being safe.
But being wrong is a part of being right. We see what is, when we see what isn’t. To know the truth, we need to see the false.
And the truth is often way less scary than the self-limiting narratives were so afraid of letting go.