Love loves everything.
Love is unconditional acceptance—absence of resistance—to reality. To what is. Allowing what is, all of it.
Everything is loveworthy. Not just what to some or others appears as lovable or attractive, but everything.
I used to not get that. I used to love certain qualities and judge others.
We tend to do that. We talk about self-love and there’s often this unspoken idea that yes, I’ll love myself more when I become more lovable.
But self-love isn’t about becoming more lovable, it’s about loving myself, as I am, now. And loving especially what I want to get rid of, annex, abandon. Loving what I judge about myself, what I dislike about myself, what I am ashamed of. That is love. It’s not about picking and choosing, it’s about accepting and allowing everything, without resistance.
And it’s very interesting what starts to unfold when we begin to do this.
The more I loved what I disliked and judged, the less it manifested. That’s not surprising, because the energy of judgement is negative and as such it aggravates what it judges.
Now I look for the shadow. I look for what I dislike, negate and reject in myself—and the more I dislike it, reject it and negate it, the more I try to love it.
What I’m finding on the other side of it—is freedom, love, trust and beauty.