What you do, of course, matters and it matters greatly. But why you do it and how you do it matter more. The why defines the how which defines the what.
Why you hit glass ceilings and how to break through Read More »
Confidence comes from saying you’ll do something and doing it. From knowing what’s important to you, committing to it and honouring your commitment. When you honour your commitments, you honour yourself. And honouring yourself builds self-respect and confidence.
Confidence follows action Read More »
The intention to find, the obstacle to finding. Searching puts us in motion, but knowing is available when we’re motionless. We know when we find the courage to be with the questions without the comfort of answers, to be in the not-knowing without the security of knowing. We know when we allow ourselves to not know.
The search is the obstacle to discovery Read More »
The most powerful expression of you emerges in the absence of your idea of you—in the non-judgemental loving acceptance of who you are, just as you are. This is difficult to attain for most of us. We resist who we are in many different ways, both conscious and subconscious.
Your uniqueness is your superpower Read More »
We are not our thoughts, nor the thinker of thoughts. Not our experiences, nor the one that’s creating the experiences.
Consciousness vs. contents of consciousness Read More »
Pain makes us keep ourselves at distance from ourselves, which only feeds it.
Living on the outside Read More »
We look for safety in two ways—intellectually and in the material world. Intellectually, we aim to minimise the uncertainty in our life, to build security, to feel confident and competent, to plan the future, to strategise about our options, find answers to the questions that intrigue and bother us, minimise emotional and psychological frictions.
There are two types of safety and only one is real Read More »
When we are not seen, heard, and held as children, we learn to not see, hear and hold ourselves. We learn to ignore ourselves. We get the message that there’s something undeserving about us.
The answers we look for are usually within us already. It’s the noise—both external and internal—that prevents us from receiving them. Busyness of mind and body, distractions, restlessness, incessant motion – our innate inability to stand still.
Our worth is not in our actions, it’s in our being. And it’s not in us being a certain way—in a certain form, shape, sound, embodiment—but just in our very being itself.
Worth is in being, not doing Read More »