If the horse is too big for the rider, does the rider need a smaller horse or better skills? If you’re falling short of standards you set for yourself, should you lower your standards or upgrade your skills?
A smaller horse or a better rider Read More »
We have three broad relationships in life: with ourselves, with other people, and with the world. The latter two are functions of the former. The relationship we have with ourselves creates our relationships with other people and the world. When we change the way we relate to ourselves, we change the person that we are.
How we relate to ourselves is how we relate to all else Read More »
Why do we procrastinate rather than work toward fulfilling on their dreams? Why are we okay with having an okay life and don’t feel inspired to create a great life? Why are we not taking action to build a bigger, brighter, bolder life—full of opportunity?
Why we don’t dream big enough Read More »
Self-sabotage, ironically, is a search for safety. But our need for safety is proportional to our lack of safety, which rests on our misconceptions and ill- founded assumptions that we won’t be safe.
We self-sabotage to stay safe Read More »
It is comforting to think that life doesn’t happen in chaotic bursts of randomness, but is instead governed by an intelligent organising force.
We create higher meaning Read More »
Our normal approach to resolving our problems and concerns is to overcome them. But this often makes them persist.
What feelings call for Read More »
Our brains exercise an evolutionary pressure against changing our minds and opening our thinking by favouring the safety of our current worldview.
How the brain works to prevent change Read More »
We think of certain behaviours as functional and of others as dysfunctional, constructive vs destructive, adaptive vs maladaptive. Generally we consider attitudes and actions that help us move closer to happiness, peace, abundance as good.
The unlovable is love looking for itself Read More »
Why do we stick with some commitments but break others and how to build habits that we sustain for the long-run.
What success really depends on Read More »
To harbour a feeling that is too overwhelming we can either shrink the feeling or bust the illusion that we’re not expansive enough to contain it.
Can I be with this? Read More »