Can I be with this?
To harbour a feeling that is too overwhelming we can either shrink the feeling or bust the illusion that we’re not expansive enough to contain it.
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Choose rather than should
When you do things because you “choose” to rather than because you “should” you create a completely different experience for yourself.
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Things we do vs. thing we are
Using fluid rather than clinging language to talk about our feelings and work helps reduce the impact of negative emotions.
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Reverse-engineering our actions to overcome limitations
Reverse-engineering our actions, thoughts and feelings to get to the origins of our limitations is the first step in transcending them.
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What we avoid is the key to what we need
The key to avoiding what we’re trying to avoid is in facing it. Whether it’s rejection or failure, what we try to prevent is the answer to preventing it.
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My favourite problems
What questions do we need to ask to get to the heart of what really matters? How can we live a life that fills us with the joy of living?
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Self-knowledge is more important than self-improvement
We can’t get the right answers by asking the wrong questions. The what of self-knowledge is more valuable than the how of self-improvement.
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What is this a symptom of?
If we want different outcomes in life – more success, happiness, wealth, health, better relationships – we need to change our thoughts and feelings.
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What I do when I’m full of self-doubt and judgement
On one of these mornings when I was consumed with self-doubt, self-blame and shame, I wrote some notes to myself on how to be with this. On how not to give up on projects when I most want to give up; how not to question myself, when I am full of self-doubt. To achieve happiness, avoid pain. To avoid pain, be with pain.
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Why fear of failure stimulates some people but paralyses others
We change when the pain of our current life becomes stronger than the fear of what the future may hold.
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