When we want other people to change, when we hold them responsible for what’s happening in our life, when we wait on them to take the lead or make a decision, we are surrendering our power. And when we surrender our power, we become victim to other people and circumstances.
Most insidious form of victimhood Read More »
The advice we give to others, especially if unsolicited, is the advice we most need to hear. The lectures we teach are the lectures we need to attend. We criticise in others what we reject in ourselves. The finger we point points to what we ourselves are guilty of.
The world is our mirror Read More »
We live in a world of polarities. Black and white. Strength and weakness. Freedom and confinement. Peace and terror. These opposites exist interdependently. They are two ends of the same spectrum.
Integrating the shadow Read More »
We all have excuses. The train was late. The weather changed. Our partner miscalculated. We were tired, scared, confused. If we want to find excuses for why we’re not achieving the things we’re committed to achieving and blame things on circumstances and other people, there are countless of opportunities. But when we do, we become
We normally think that we suffer because we are not good enough in some capacity. We’re not powerful enough, not smart enough, not creative enough. But often the real reason we suffer is because the life we’re living is too small for the person we are.
Expressing our true self Read More »
Whenever something triggers us, it’s because at the deeper level it is making us feel unsafe. On the surface, there are many reasons why circumstances, words, actions cause upset in us. They may evoke sadness, fear, anger, surprise, disgust, or a combination of them. But when we look into our emotional reaction, examine it and
A conflict triggered me very deeply recently, evoking strong feelings of fear, fragmentation, abandonment and loss. In the immediate aftermath of it, I was very vulnerable, raw, alone and exposed.
To look life in the face Read More »
I grew up, not allowing myself to be vulnerable because I believed that my worth was contingent on me being powerful, strong dependable. On the one hand, I didn’t want to show to people who were hurting me how they impacted me, so I suppressed my emotions. And on the other hand, I thought that
Vulnerability is a superpower Read More »
Traditionally, we think of life, achievement, motion in terms of linear progression. Growth which involves moving from A to B takes time. Building muscle, training for a marathon, losing weight require progressive overload over a period of time.
Growth by vertical ascension Read More »
What we judge in others is often what we sense and reject in ourselves. The traits and behaviours we criticise, actively or passively, in friends, partners, co-workers, society at large are usually characteristics we see in ourselves and are uncomfortable with.
Judgement of others is judgement of self Read More »