Self-sabotage, ironically, is a search for safety. But our need for safety is proportional to our lack of safety, which rests on our misconceptions and ill- founded assumptions that we won’t be safe.
We self-sabotage to stay safe Read More »
It is comforting to think that life doesn’t happen in chaotic bursts of randomness, but is instead governed by an intelligent organising force.
We create higher meaning Read More »
Our normal approach to resolving our problems and concerns is to overcome them. But this often makes them persist.
What feelings call for Read More »
Our brains exercise an evolutionary pressure against changing our minds and opening our thinking by favouring the safety of our current worldview.
How the brain works to prevent change Read More »
We think of certain behaviours as functional and of others as dysfunctional, constructive vs destructive, adaptive vs maladaptive. Generally we consider attitudes and actions that help us move closer to happiness, peace, abundance as good.
The unlovable is love looking for itself Read More »
Why do we stick with some commitments but break others and how to build habits that we sustain for the long-run.
What success really depends on Read More »
To harbour a feeling that is too overwhelming we can either shrink the feeling or bust the illusion that we’re not expansive enough to contain it.
Can I be with this? Read More »
When you do things because you “choose” to rather than because you “should” you create a completely different experience for yourself.
Choose rather than should Read More »
Using fluid rather than clinging language to talk about our feelings and work helps reduce the impact of negative emotions.
Things we do vs. thing we are Read More »
Reverse-engineering our actions, thoughts and feelings to get to the origins of our limitations is the first step in transcending them.
Reverse-engineering our actions to overcome limitations Read More »