When we tell ourselves that someone else’s needs come first, we’re pretending to be generous and selfless, when in fact we’re being anything but. Deciding that it’s up to us to say whose needs come first is to put our own needs first, and to pretend we aren’t. When we leave the common choice with […]
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Underneath the questions we ask of ourselves about ourselves is a request for permission. A permission to be who we are, with all we are and all we aren’t; with all we’ve ever been and haven’t; with all we’ll ever be. A permission to feel shame without shaming. To feel blame without blaming ourselves for
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The more we pursue success, the more reminded we are of our failure. The more we try to fix ourselves, the more broken we feel.
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If a tree falls in the forest when nobody is listening, does it make a sound?
Does the tree make a sound if nobody’s listening? Read More »
A lot of the work we do on ourselves revolves around actions and results. We want different results, and experts and guidance point us to the actions we can take to achieve them.
It is comforting to think that life doesn’t happen in chaotic bursts of randomness, but is instead governed by an intelligent organising force.
We create higher meaning Read More »
Thinking about what is true, and what is real, what is fictitious and illusory helps bring some perspective as we ponder how we spend our time and what’s valuable to us.
Truth, reality and fiction Read More »
We think of certain behaviours as functional and of others as dysfunctional, constructive vs destructive, adaptive vs maladaptive. Generally we consider attitudes and actions that help us move closer to happiness, peace, abundance as good.
The unlovable is love looking for itself Read More »
The real benefit of learning from painful past experiences is not in learning to prevent them but in understanding why they cause pain.
What questions do we need to ask to get to the heart of what really matters? How can we live a life that fills us with the joy of living?
My favourite problems Read More »