A very simple and effective way to relieve the pain and heaviness of any unpleasant situation, is by removing any “shoulds” or “shouldn’ts” we attach to it. I find that there’s immediate lightness when I reframe “this shouldn’t be happening” as “this is what’s happening”. I shouldn’t have done this. > I did this. I […]
There’s a Good Wolf and a Bad Wolf. A Mr Hyde and a Dr Jekyll. A higher self and a lesser self. Two polarities, in each of us.
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We don’t just create ourselves, we create other people. The way we view them and treat them stimulate and surface aspects of who they are. We can see and react to either their gifts or their so-called inadequacies, to what they give or what they lack, who they are or who they’re not. And
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The cyclical nature of nature and of the measures of time we’ve designed around it offer us constant opportunities for renewal. New beginnings and change are available to us not just around the holidays, in the turn of the years, or during the big milestones, but all the time. All the time. There’s newness, possibility
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I connected with a deep sense of loneliness and isolation, buried very deeply within me since my early childhood, during a recent meditation. I attuned to the four-year-old me, and to a sense of feeling unseen and unheard that I experienced at that age and throughout most of my childhood.
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We are often so focused on getting approval and acceptance from other people that we abandon our own needs and our authentic expression in order to belong. We hide parts of ourselves that we believe are unlikable, we modify our opinions, censor our expression.
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The more a situation we’re in seems to deprive us of choice, the more critical the decisions we make.
Smiling sends a powerful message not just to other people, but to our own brain. When we smile, our brain releases neuropeptides, including dopamine, serotonin, and endorphins, which can improve our mood and reduce stress.
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One of the “lessons” so many of us learn as children is that we are not safe. My own formative introduction to that was through being locked out one evening. I’d been to visit the neighbours and I got home a few minutes later than I was supposed to.
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So often when we navigate periods of deep change, grief or loss, we are so focused on getting to the other side that we forget the aspect of ourselves that’s grieving. The fear and pain that are an intrinsic part of transitions are so uncomfortable to be with
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