Power isn’t something you find, it’s something you already have. It’s your inherent nature. If you’re experiencing powerlessness, the key to overcoming this is not by becoming more powerful, but by removing what prevents you from feeling powerful.
Being powerful isn’t in doing, it’s in undoing Read More »
Asking ourselves difficult questions is difficult. If we think the answers may hurt us, make us feel vulnerable, or critical of ourselves, we tend to self-protect by pulling away from inquiry. We don’t want to find out that yes, it was our fault that the project failed; yes, we didn’t say the right thing; yes, we embarrassed ourselves.
Difficult questions and radical honesty Read More »
Problems recur for two main reasons: either because we’ve been ignoring them, or because the solutions were not effective. In either case it’s our inability to be with the friction that problems create that causes recurring problems.
Recurring patterns Read More »
Failing doesn’t mean you’re a failure.
We are often slow to rebound from failure because we spend hours, days, weeks judging ourselves for our mistakes. We get stuck in downwards spiral of self-blame, and the pothole becomes an abyss.
Failure is an opportunity Read More »
When we think about what we want to achieve, the fundamental question we’re trying to answer is “what would I love to get?”.
Goal-setting reimagined: what would I love to give? Read More »
You’re not just one thing. Not only a professional, or only a partner, or only a parent. Not only someone who works, or someone who runs, or someone who paints in their free time.
You zag when others zig Read More »
What do we most need when we feel insecure and hopeless? Confidence and trust. And when is it most difficult to have them? When we are insecure and hopeless.
I choose to choose humanity and fight the dark forces Read More »
Selling is often seen as the act of forcing something undesirable onto someone who’s not desiring it. No wonder so many of us have so much resistance to it.
How to overcome resistance to selling? Read More »
One of the things most damaging to confidence is breaking our commitment. Whether we’ve given our word to others or ourselves, we are out of integrity when we go back on it, and we know that we are. We know that we’ve just lied to ourselves, and it doesn’t feel good. Not upholding our commitments impacts our confidence negatively often in ways we don’t fully appreciate.
The power of keeping your word Read More »
So often when we navigate periods of deep change, grief or loss, we are so focused on getting to the other side that we forget the aspect of ourselves that’s grieving. The fear and pain that are an intrinsic part of transitions are so uncomfortable to be with
Making space for what is Read More »