I’ve observed that it’s not so much what I’m doing, but rather the extent of my presence with it that shapes whether I enjoy it or not. The activity itself may be something boring or something fun, intellectual or practical, difficult or easy—and yet, it’s not the activity itself but how connected and present with it I am that makes all the difference.
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One of my biggest weaknesses has been talking about my weaknesses. I’ve been afraid to be vulnerable since childhood. I demanded from myself to be strong.
Grounded in fragility Read More »
The qualities of leadership are already within you, beneath the conditioned thinking patterns.
Leaders aren’t made, they’re revealed Read More »
Toward the end of last summer, I took cold showers for a couple of weeks. One morning, in the midst of a shower, I thought—it’s not getting any easier. And then I remembered—it’s not about avoiding difficulties, it’s about being with them without letting them affect us.
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Complexity is ubiquitous in the personal growth world, especially when it comes to productivity, nutrition, exercising, weight loss or weight gain. Experts have us believe that elaborate solutions and strategies are the key to success—when in fact the opposite is true. Simplicity and fundamentals are the key to success. Complexity is a form of avoidance.
The two main success factors Read More »
A very simple and effective way to relieve the pain and heaviness of any unpleasant situation, is by removing any “shoulds” or “shouldn’ts” we attach to it. I find that there’s immediate lightness when I reframe “this shouldn’t be happening” as “this is what’s happening”. I shouldn’t have done this. > I did this. I
As someone who’s always valued growth very highly, I fall pray to the perpetual search for improvement. But not everything needs to be a gateway to growth. Some experiences can just suck. Full stop. If you don’t see the silver lining that may be because there just isn’t one right now. One may reveal itself
Growth and tunnels Read More »
Do we think or do our way into changing? We have plenty of evidence that when our thinking about something changes, our actions change and so do our results. In other words, we need to be before we do.
Does mood follow action? Read More »
I find that the more our modus operandi pushes us into one extreme, the more transformative it is to create pockets of time for stepping into the opposite extreme. The way I’ve been exploring this recently is by making time for standing still.
The more on you are, the more you can benefit from some off-time Read More »
Confidence is owning yourself fully. It doesn’t result from being perfect, but from being comfortable with the so-called imperfections.
Confidence is owning imperfection, i.e. our humanity Read More »