Most of the time we’re trying to avoid the life we don’t want to live rather than create the life we don’t want to avoid. This, by default, puts us in a reactive mode. The choices we make are in response to what we don’t want.
I have been there myself. I’ve tried to lose weight because I didn’t want to be unfit. I’ve tried to be successful because I didn’t want to be a loser. I’ve tried to find love and acceptance in order to mitigate feelings of discontent with myself. I’ve tried to exceed expectations, my own and others’, because I didn’t want to feel undervalued.
I have also been on the other side of this. I’ve worked hard because I was loving it. I’ve polished something that I was creating to enhance my own enjoyment of its aesthetics. I’ve gone the extra mile because it felt fun to continue. I’ve made nutritious food choices because I wanted to honour myself.
Energetically, there is a big difference between being in an avoidant mindspace rather than in a creative mindspace. The former is responsive and as such limiting. There’s predeterminant—something that our choices and actions are at the effect of. And not only that, but we’re driven by what we don’t want rather than what we want. What we’re trying to avoid is dictating our actions and is always present.
A creative mindspace is unprompted, unscripted and limitless. It’s resultant from the absence of intention rather than the intention to engage with an intriguing impulse, curiosity, opportunity. In that state, we are, we chose and we do from a place of pure possibility—the slate is blank.
The more we align our thinking and actions with the creative form of life, the more effortless things happen. Because in the absence of avoidance is the absence of resistance. And in the absence of resistance is the presence of flow.
When we create for the love of creation, when we connect for the love of connection, when we are for the love of expression we tap into the inherent abundance of life, and from this place anything is possible.