Water to fish, air to birds
Sometimes what we’re most looking for is what we already have. What we miss the most is what’s already there.
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Infinite potential
I was running one afternoon, when I realised that nothing in my life was a coincidence. Everything, literally every single thing that has happened—every feeling I’ve had, each big and small decision I’ve taken, every thought—was the tailor-made extension of the person I had been. My life, in all it was and all it wasn’t,
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The gift of brutal honesty with ourselves
We all avoid facing the truth at times: the hurtful realisations, the disruptive decisions they’d trigger, the reckoning with guilt, shame, loss. We are wired for self-protection and our instinct to avoid suffering sometimes expresses itself as resistance to looking ourselves and life in the face. What are you afraid you aren’t being honest with
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Most insidious form of victimhood
When we want other people to change, when we hold them responsible for what’s happening in our life, when we wait on them to take the lead or make a decision, we are surrendering our power. And when we surrender our power, we become victim to other people and circumstances.
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The world is our mirror
The advice we give to others, especially if unsolicited, is the advice we most need to hear. The lectures we teach are the lectures we need to attend. We criticise in others what we reject in ourselves. The finger we point points to what we ourselves are guilty of.
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Integrating the shadow
We live in a world of polarities. Black and white. Strength and weakness. Freedom and confinement. Peace and terror. These opposites exist interdependently. They are two ends of the same spectrum.
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Excuses
We all have excuses. The train was late. The weather changed. Our partner miscalculated. We were tired, scared, confused. If we want to find excuses for why we’re not achieving the things we’re committed to achieving and blame things on circumstances and other people, there are countless of opportunities. But when we do, we become
Expressing our true self
We normally think that we suffer because we are not good enough in some capacity. We’re not powerful enough, not smart enough, not creative enough. But often the real reason we suffer is because the life we’re living is too small for the person we are.
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The wolf in sheep’s clothes
Our minds are primed to spot patterns. Patterns of expression, patterns of behaviour, patterns of being. Processing new information is one of the most metabolically intensive activities and our brains have evolved to mitigate that by developing mental shortcuts. Heuristics enable us to take in, interpret and react to information in efficient ways. The learn
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Real safety
Whenever something triggers us, it’s because at the deeper level it is making us feel unsafe. On the surface, there are many reasons why circumstances, words, actions cause upset in us. They may evoke sadness, fear, anger, surprise, disgust, or a combination of them. But when we look into our emotional reaction, examine it and