To experience our true selves, we need to unlearn our conditioned thinking. And to unlearn it, we need to see it first. We have resistance to both because both seeing the truth and unlearning require an openness to the possibility that we might be wrong. And that’s something we are really scared of. The fear […]
The biggest obstacle to growth is the fear of being wrong Read More »
We search for external approval and validation in order to reconcile what’s already within—our self-judgements and fears. It is that internal dissonance and discomfort created by the voice of the inner critic that we are looking to get a relief from when we seek approval from others.
Compliments dissolve when they are met by internal doubt Read More »
What a fascinating collection of juxtapositions, polarities, controversies the human condition holds. Movement and stillness.
The polarities and controversies of the human condition Read More »
We are often so focused on getting approval and acceptance from other people that we abandon our own needs and our authentic expression in order to belong. We hide parts of ourselves that we believe are unlikable, we modify our opinions, censor our expression.
It’s our own shadow we are most frightened of Read More »
The more a situation we’re in seems to deprive us of choice, the more critical the decisions we make.
When we think about what we want to achieve, the fundamental question we’re trying to answer is “what would I love to get?”.
Goal-setting reimagined: what would I love to give? Read More »
Sharing our life with others is perhaps one of the most beautiful and touching aspects of the human experience. Celebrating with someone when things go well. Talking over our hurt when they don’t.
You’re not just one thing. Not only a professional, or only a partner, or only a parent. Not only someone who works, or someone who runs, or someone who paints in their free time.
You zag when others zig Read More »
Confidence is being able to be with insecurity. Confidence doesn’t mean being perfect, it means being okay with imperfection.
Confidence: being comfortable with the uncomfortable Read More »
Byron Katie has a saying that I love : “Reality is always kinder than the stories we tell about it.” Never is this truer than when it comes to our own critical thoughts about ourselves.
The inner critic is wrong Read More »