A very simple and effective way to relieve the pain and heaviness of any unpleasant situation, is by removing any “shoulds” or “shouldn’ts” we attach to it. I find that there’s immediate lightness when I reframe “this shouldn’t be happening” as “this is what’s happening”. I shouldn’t have done this. > I did this. I […]
Our thoughts and actions are driven by either one of two intentions—to be right or to know the truth. I believe there’s no middle ground. We are either open to knowing the truth or we’re closed to it.
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Confidence and trust are our natural states. They’re not something you need to create, they’re something you already have.
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Unless we see things as they are–as they really are–we can’t do anything about them. Raw honesty is fundamental. We are often scared of it, because we are afraid of the answers it may reveal.
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Who are the people you look up to? What qualities do they embody? Are there ways in which you can benefit from aligning your life more closely with these qualities? What would that give you?
The more you function from one end of an extreme, the more impactful spending time in the other extreme would be. If you’re always busy, take some time for introspection. If you’re always surrounded by people, do something alone. If you never exercise, do some push-ups or a short walk around the block. Do it
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As someone who’s always valued growth very highly, I fall pray to the perpetual search for improvement. But not everything needs to be a gateway to growth. Some experiences can just suck. Full stop. If you don’t see the silver lining that may be because there just isn’t one right now. One may reveal itself
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Confidence is the integration of self-doubt. Making space for the part of us that’s fearful, insecure and hesitant — rather than banishing it.
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Do we think or do our way into changing? We have plenty of evidence that when our thinking about something changes, our actions change and so do our results. In other words, we need to be before we do.
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I find that the more our modus operandi pushes us into one extreme, the more transformative it is to create pockets of time for stepping into the opposite extreme. The way I’ve been exploring this recently is by making time for standing still.
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