True intimacy
To see within is the most beautiful gift we can give ourselves. To not just look, but to truly see. To be with ourselves and honour our reality and who we are in this very moment.
Victim of self-perception
The layers of victimhood go deep and wide. The victim morphs and moulds itself to take on different identities and roles in order to mislead and misrepresent itself.
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Science can compound the problems it’s trying to solve
What is the definition of real when a scientist says that something can seem kind of woo-woo, but there’s something real going on there?
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The fear of how we’re perceived
The fear of how we’re perceived by others is a form of victim mentality, on three distinct levels.
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Why are we so afraid of our emotions?
When reason says that we should take control of our emotions, it’s not reason speaking, it’s fear masquerading as reason. Reason doesn’t want to get rid of emotions, emotion wants to get rid of emotions.
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Putting others’ needs first
When we tell ourselves that someone else’s needs come first, we’re pretending to be generous and selfless, when in fact we’re being anything but. Deciding that it’s up to us to say whose needs come first is to put our own needs first, and to pretend we aren’t. When we leave the common choice with
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Profound acceptance
Underneath the questions we ask of ourselves about ourselves is a request for permission. A permission to be who we are, with all we are and all we aren’t; with all we’ve ever been and haven’t; with all we’ll ever be. A permission to feel shame without shaming. To feel blame without blaming ourselves for
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Why we’re not getting there
The more we pursue success, the more reminded we are of our failure. The more we try to fix ourselves, the more broken we feel.
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Does the tree make a sound if nobody’s listening?
If a tree falls in the forest when nobody is listening, does it make a sound?
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How emotions are made
We think of our emotions as static. We feel how we feel because that’s how we’re feeling—and that’s not up for challenging. There’s even a certain sacredness we attach to our emotions at times—that makes us even more resistant to questioning them.
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