I am no stranger to overcoming addictions. I used to be overweight, I used to smoke, and I used to drink alcohol. Neuroscientist’s Andrew Huberman’s definition of addiction as “the progressive narrowing of the things that bring you pleasure” certainly resonates with my experience.
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In the search for self-improvement, we aspire to develop the desirable and get rid of the undesirable. We want to create happiness, success, love, peace. We look to develop the qualities we like about ourselves.
How to be impeccable – understand that you are not Read More »
I run 7 km in the rain this morning. I’ve had many runs in all kinds of weather—snow, hail, wind, rain, ice—in the last 18 months. I’d made a commitment to run six times a week and to make sure that nothing interferes with it, I decided to run first thing in the morning.
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I woke up feeling sad. My energy was low, melancholic, resigned. There was a heaviness to it, but also a comfort and familiarity. It was a Saturday, the sky was bright, and the day was ahead of me.
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For most of my life, I have been more reliant on the masculine than feminine qualities and characteristics. I’d tell myself that I need to be strong, composed and reliable. I’d favour rationality over intuition when taking decisions.
The safety of the feminine Read More »
Our fears are often future-oriented. We’re worried about an outcome we want to avoid and we’re projecting it into the future—they might reject my offer, I might embarrass myself, I might underperform.
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We often isolate ourselves when we’re hurt. We close ourselves around our suffering, shut the door to the world, and to largely to ourselves, and hide. We don’t allow ourselves to be vulnerable around our issues, because we’re ashamed of whatever we’re going through.
The masculine and the feminine Read More »
Our presumption that people are innocent until proven otherwise rests on the belief that people are inherently good rather than bad. We have chosen to trust that life is good rather than evil, that people are kind rather than vicious, generous rather than stingy. But when it comes to trust, we say that trust is
One of the most insurmountable obstacles to forgiveness is the assumption that it entails accepting the blame ourselves. We find it impossible to absolve someone’s actions because whether we’re consciously aware of it or not there’s the felt sense that if they’re not at fault, then surely we must be.
Why we resist forgiveness Read More »
What is the main reason you aren’t a bestselling author, a millionaire, a top athlete, or the founder of a super successful start-up?
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