I lone-wolfed it for years.
Doing everything alone.
I was embarrassed to ask for help.
I’d say no, even when people offered.
I didn’t want to trouble them.
I thought doing it alone was the right thing to do.
Over time, the journey became increasingly frustrating.
I was progressing, but I wasn’t making quantum leaps.
I was repeating the same mistakes over and over again.
I wasn’t sufficiently learning and growing from my experience.
And, doing it all alone was lonely.
So, I slowed myself down and got really honest with myself.
I stopped all the busyness and asked myself what really was going on.
What was preventing me from getting support from others?
From recruiting a team of mentors and supporters?
And the answers came—all of them, from my inner critic:
“It’s pathetic to ask for help.”
“I don’t deserve it.”
“Doing it alone is the impressive thing to do.”
A perfect strategy to self-sabotage.
Manufactured by my inner critic, the voice of fear, to bully me out of becoming more.
Designed to keep me small and safe.
To ensure slow progress.
To shame me into staying faithful to my limiting beliefs and fears.
Lone-wolfing it is not impressive. It’s a form of self-sabotage.
It’s a block that keeps you stuck, cobbled up by the part of you that’s fearful of change.
By your subconscious autopilot.
The saying goes “If you want to go fast, go alone; if you want to go far, go together.”
In my experience, when we go together we go both fast and far.
Getting the support and guidance you need to achieve your goals is the impressive thing to do.
It puts you in charge.
It shifts you out of victim mentally and into creator mentality.
It gives you the reins.
The power to be 100% in control of your life.
This is what I teach inside my free Freedom From Self-Doubt and Inner Emptiness masterclass.
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