We often have hard time asking for help. It may feel embarrassing or as an admission of weakness. Perhaps we think we’re intruding or we that not coping on our own is a sign of weakness.
People who find it difficult to ask for help are normally people who love giving help. They believe that they’re powerful when they give and helpless when they receive. Essentially, we feel more worthy when we’re the one giving rather than the one receiving. But in fact, the very opposite is true.
The need to feel powerful comes from powerlessness.
The need to give help comes from helplessness.
The need for independence is an insidious form of dependence.
Needing to be strong is borne out of fundamentally feeling weak.
Real power is in the ability to not need to feel powerful, which results from a deep sense of knowing that we are. Power is in the lack of needing to be needed, strong, superior.
The way we relate to receiving help is intimately linked to the way we relate to ourselves. In the absence of doubt about our worth, value and power—we can ask for help, without any inhibitions.
Receiving help is a sign of true power. It comes from a deep sense of confidence, deservedness, and self-worth.